Sexcreation and Musterbation!

Part of what I love about my job as a romance consultant is that I get to clear up so many misconceptions caused by lack of understanding, social taboo, or those fabulous mothers who taught us great things like, "Masturbation will make you go blind," or "It'll make you grow hair on your palms!"

Good old mom!! I don't think she actually meant to give her offspring a life-time of guilt over what every human being does, or at least has the urge to do, I think she simply wanted her little boy to stop bopping his boppit in the grocery store and her little girl to stop climbing the flag-pole!

One of my favorite misconceptions to clear up is that toys are just for naughty girls when, in fact, nothing could be further from the truth. Although not all women answer truthfully when questioned about vibrator use, studies show that more than 50% of women have used or currently use toys for self-pleasure or during sex-play with their partners. It may not have been what the Beach Boys were referring to, but talk about good vibrations!!


My second favorite misconception to correct is that toys are meant to replace a man. This is simply not true; When in a loving relationship, sexual aids can significantly enhance the experience for both partners! And, when used alone, vibrators not only increase a woman's libido, but also make her more aware of her 'hot-spots' which make it possible for her to achieve much deeper satisfaction during sexual intercourse with her partner. It's a win-win situation!!


That's not to say sexual aids such as vibrators can't get you through a rough patch when you're flying solo because you don't have to be in a relationship to have a really great sex-life! Woody Allen once said, "Having sex is like playing bridge. If you don't have a good partner you better have a really good hand." Certainly employing the use of sexual aids during this time is better than sleeping with random men in order to fulfill your desire, because you don't want to be seeing one of these:

Well, maybe if he looked like that I would, but not for a flaming case of brothel sprouts--I'd much rather visit him for a breast exam ("Oh, Dr.-- I think you missed a spot!" :)

There are many different types of stimulating toys for different areas, but that's a discussion for a different day! Until then, consider how sexual aids may actually enhance your intimate life with your partner--you'll never know unless you try it :)