Q and A re G

Just exactly what is this G-spot I keep hearing about, and how can I find mine?
The G-Spot can be quite an elusive area for women, and the cause of much frustration. Named after the German gynecologist Ernst Grafenberg who published a paper on it in 1950, most of what we know about the G-Spot has been discovered in the past 20 years!

Located 1-3 inches inside the vagina, on the front (belly-side) wall, most woman know when it's being stimulated by the sudden urge to urinate. The reason for this is the close proximity to the urethra and the G-spot actually contains erectile tissue that causes this area to grow up to 50% during arousal in order to protect the very delicate urethra from damage during rough sex.

Because of the initial slight feeling of discomfort, many women shy away from this area, and miss out on one of the most erogenous zones on the female body. Women who ride that feeling out find that it very quickly becomes a much more pleasant sensation and the cause of explosive orgasms!

Reaching the G-spot during sexual intercourse is a little difficult unless your man's penis is shaped like a banana (and if he is, he's keeper, because hooks are IN this season!!) Mostly, learning how to have G-spot orgasms during penetrative sex requires some clever positioning.


Ok, we don't have to go quite that far :) It is important to realize, though, that when a woman is on her back, the higher her legs are, the more likely it is that the man is going to hit the G-spot.

My partner and I have tried everything and I still can't have a G-spot orgasm. What's wrong with me?
If you're having a difficult time finding the G-spot, especially during sex, you're not alone! It's important to note that clitoral stimulation before and during G-spot stimulation greatly increases your chances of having a G-spot orgasm, and it's usually easier to learn using methods other than penetrative sex.

Men can stimulate this area during digital penetration by using the "come here" finger motion, but the G-spot requires a firmer touch than other, more delicate areas of the female body. Couple this motion with oral sex and you've got a recipe for G-gasms!

Also, there are a variety of toys specifically designed to stimulate the G-spot and many women are more comfortable exploring their body by themselves when their partner isn't around. The great news is that using a toy to learn how to have explosive G-spot orgasms is the best homework ever! The even better news is that once a woman knows the exact touch, pressure and positioning that work best for her own body, she can then incorporate these into sex with her partner!

I suggest a toy with not only a G-spot, but also clitoral stimulator. I cannot stress enough that the combined sensation of both erogenous zones at the same time can be instrumental to having an orgasm, however, begin with clitoral stimulation only. Once you're properly aroused, work on finding that G-spot (remember, the slight urge to pee when you find it tells you that you're in the right place!) without any clitoral stimulation. Only after you've explored this area for some time do you want to add the clitoral stimulation again, because once you hit that point, it's 30 seconds to OHH's-ville and if you don't take the time to explore before the orgasm, you won't have learned any different techniques.

Now that you've learned a little more about the G-spot, grab your boy, or grab your toy, and go have fun!!